One reputation I have with my family is not a very positive
one. I am constantly told that I am unable to make a decision. Anything from
what movie we watch to where we go out to eat to where we go on vacation, I
just don’t want to get involved. When a decision affects others equally or more
than it affects me, I like to remove myself from the decision-making process. I
developed this reputation over time, because being in the middle child of two
brothers means that I don’t really have to make a decision. I was always able
to just ask one of my brothers to make the decision, or say ‘I don’t know/care’
and have the decision made for me. I’ve never been one to be too strongly
opinionated, I prefer to just go with the flow and sit back and let others
decide things that don’t have a big effect on me.
While I’ve been doing this for basically my entire life, my
family has only recently caught on within the past couple of years. They think it’s
pretty funny most of the time, and try to use it against me, by forcing me to decide
things. This is fair however, because I had been using it to my advantage for a
while, by saying, every now and then, that it was my turn to pick where we eat when
there was some place I really wanted to eat. However, to this day I try to take
as little responsibility as possible, and my family tries to get me to make
every decision possible, and it balances out somewhere in the middle.
I try to work on making decisions, every once in a while but
for the most part being non-committal hasn’t necessarily negatively impacted me
in any major way. It’s not like I hate making decisions, it’s really just that I
prefer not to make them when they have little effect on me and affect others. Most
of the time it’s a benefit that I’m not expected to take responsibility for any
of the decisions made. Although when it does backfire and they try to force me
to make a decision, it’s not always the best. Overall, while most would see it
as a negative, I feel my reputation for being indecisive is fairly neutral and
benign.
